I keep avoiding this post. Somehow, it doesn't seem quite right to share this information here but it also seems quite right. Some of you read my blog, I think of you as friends. And even though this information is not about sewing, or crafting, spiritual AHA! or even librarianing - I feel like I want to share this event in my life as an explanation for my absence. And, just because I want to. So there.
In late August, I asked my landlord's permission for my daughter, and her two children to come and stay with me. Those posts about her arrival were some of my happiest writing. He agreed and for the two months following her arrival he and his wife visited with her, offered to provide childcare when she achieved full-time work and in every way, affirmed their approval for her living here. Despite all that, last Monday night, he served us with notice to vacate tenancy. The notice said that I had ten days to get my daughter "out" or to surrender the property.
Of course, my daughter and I have been in a state of panic. I don't know about your finances, but mine certainly don't include extra cash laying around to front a move. Especially in ten days! Besides, I like my house! After a storm of emails, my landlord actually said to me that he never had any intention of evicting anyone, and that he does approve of my daughter's living with me. He just thinks that if I pay an extra sum of money each month, "this won't be a big issue."
I feel extorted. I feel threatened. And, I am angry. For several days, my daughter and I went through the emotional journey of being homeless. And, it's still not quite over. Turns out, that our duplex is an illegal duplex, only zoned for a single family unit. During this time, our kitchen sink has been backed up and that turns out to be the result of inadequately installed plumbing. So, while we've been experiencing all this emotional turmoil, we've been bailing water and doing dishes in the bathtub. Then, to make matters worse, our toilet stopped working as well. After hours and hours of attempts, nothing has succeeded and to this day, I have been bailing water for 14 days now.
Of course, this added tension has done nothing to support and strengthen my relationship with my daughter who feels a grave responsibility - she thinks this is all her fault. None of it is her fault, the improper plumbing would have ultimately failed anyway and an in trouble landlord would have turned my direction at some point in time in order to ease his financial burdens. Nevertheless, she and I have been arguing an awful lot and then we have our moments of solidarity and peace which have usually been short-lived as yet another plumbing crisis or new bit of information has come to light.
There may be solutions, some of them very difficult, maybe a few less difficult, but none of them easy. Our City's Code Enforcement department is now involved (they were already investigating another matter) and I'm not really sure how things are going to go from here on out. If he's illegally rented me an apartment, I'm not sure how he can ask for any rent at all, much less any extra rent. At any rate, I'm exhausted and I for sure have not been thinking about pincushions, dottie dolls or even knitting. I hope you'll stick around for the few posts that I manage and I look forward to joining you again soon on a more regular basis. I do read all your blogs, even if I don't comment - that distraction has kept me calm and I do thank you.
~Lee